Deep down, in our hearts and heads, we still have a lot of hope for a new romanticism that is coming. Yes, love with a capital A has changed and it is no longer the same as yesterday! It is difficult to say that the series "Married at First Sight" carries the same romance as the melodramatic tragedy of a " Romeo and Juliet " by Shakespeare. Does true love still exist? Is the blue-flower romanticism, a little saccharine according to some, really so pathetic in 2021?
There are many reasons that push us to become hearts of stone, impervious to all these feelings, but all of this seems to be only of the order of "fear", the fear of being overwhelmed by our feelings, the fear of failure, the fear of rejection, the fear of losing control. We are afraid of losing our loved one as we are afraid of losing our job; so in the end, we prefer not to try anything and multiply the conquests without getting attached. However, these one-night stands only prove satisfactory for our narcissism and our ego. And it is for want of being loved in reciprocity that we turn to the consumerist of romantic encounters offered by tinder, badoo or adopteunmec.
To protect themselves from all these disillusionments (divorces, separations, breakups, broken hearts), our youth has equipped itself with a foolproof realism, without sexual and sentimental exclusivity. From now on, we judge ourselves, we recruit ourselves on our CV, we can have a good time and have fun with our "sex friend", go from love experience to love experience, be free to love who we want when we want. The most important thing is not to suffer! 0r, romanticism includes a more global love without concession, intense and most overwhelming.
So yes, it is easy to blame the Internet, to blame these dating apps, this consumer society and this zapping of the heart . And it is perhaps much more complicated to accept that we are a little "philophobic" in our spare time.
We are far from the idealized and exclusive love of the 19th century, but it may be a blessing in disguise. Romanticism “à la française” is reborn differently today and aims to be, in the authenticity and spontaneity of feelings, in exchange and in the moment. It embodies with force and for a long time to come, all these values of individual revolt and passion for the freedom to love and be loved. It is in no way “old-fashioned” and even if slow seduction seems to be over and love aims to be more rational, we all need a little dream, magic, and irrationality to escape cynicism, disengagement and romantic dispersion.
Be attentive, attentive, creative, original, spontaneous, tell him what you feel, open up, continue to surprise your partner! What could be more pleasant than a sunset, a night walk in the moonlight, a romantic dinner with your other half, a pretty bouquet of flowers on a table, a sweet word lovingly written on the bathroom mirror with our invisible ink marker.
A new generation of “French-style” romanticism is on the rise! Our youth need this romanticism so much! Very recently, Time magazine published a study that claimed that 90% of American teenagers wanted to stay with the same partner for their entire lives.
In France, a recent IFOP study also told us that 30% of people were lacking real encounters.
According to a study conducted by Happn and Opinion Way, more than one in two French people declare themselves to be romantic, and more than 41% of women and 32% of men say they are ready to leave everything behind to throw themselves into a new love story.
These figures and this unexpected optimism prove to us once again that romanticism has not said its last word but that it has simply adapted to the reality of its time and to new technologies.