HOW TO LIVE YOUR SEXUALITY FULLY AND SERENELY IN THE FACE OF CANCER?

Cancer is much more than a seasonal storm, it's a hurricane with its procession of shocks, each more violent than the next. Cancer is the No. 1 enemy of our health and breast cancer in women is the leader. Swept away by the evil that gnaws away without warning, the landmarks disappear for a time that will seem endless and the certainties vanish in the darkness of anxieties and fears. The discovery of an anomaly, the devastating announcement of a diagnosis and the confirmation of this dreadful disease are all initial wounds that rush instantly, insidiously and as if by breaking into the very heart of the weakened person. By attacking the human body and the consciousness that accompanies it in such a dirty way, cancer orchestrates a real chaos in the organisms, in the heads and in the hearts, causing by successive ricochets, a lot of stress and anxiety within the couple and deep within yourself. It is then in these same moments of panic that everything begins, that everything changes, where nothing will be as before.

To you who are weakened, you will have to learn to no longer be afraid, to believe even more in life and in love, to face pain and stares, to have the mad desire to save at all costs. costs your own sexuality attacked in full body and in full heart. The human being, faced with the invisible evil that wants to bring him down, can initially and in absolute urgency only submit, bow down and very quickly become not the victim but a soldier in the shadows ready to face the enemy. After having fought for a long time against this invisible patient and having never abandoned his legitimate desire to love and to be loved, to enjoy and to rejoice, he will relive over time and gently a new sexuality very different from that which he he was able to live before. Dare this new sexuality in which you will flourish! Doubly attacked in your femininity or your masculinity by the loss of your hair and the mutilation of your body par excellence, restart your imagination and your creativity, live your new sexuality as best as possible in full harmony with your new body. YESforLOV accompanies you in this ultimate quest for an accomplice, reciprocal, comfortable and joyful sexuality even through illness.

How to better live your sexuality with cancer?

How to better live your sexuality with cancer?

For you who are confronted with this terrible ordeal that is cancer, an unimaginable and yet inevitable face to face with yourself takes shape very early on. This malignant tumour, which develops in the breast or elsewhere, is initially local before sometimes spreading to neighboring tissues and to the lymph nodes or even to other organs through the bloodstream; we then speak of metastases. Breast cancer is the most common cancer in women . It represents, according to the National Cancer Institute, 33% of female cancers and nearly 60,000 cases are diagnosed each year in France. A reassuring glimmer: the mortality rate has been falling very steadily since the 1990s . You will easily find on our site of the art of loving, the article of the founder of YESforLOV Christian Palix "Pink October and its ribbon of hope" .

In oncology, too little is discussed about the repercussions of the sudden onset of cancer, whatever its form, and the treatments that will follow depending on the nature of the disease: they weigh heavily on the sex life of the person concerned. and on the sometimes weakened intimacy of the couple. Evil has slyly set in and with it, an understandable loss of libido, unbearable pain, unrest all the way. A multidisciplinary care full of tact and psychology should be imposed automatically and this is unfortunately not always the case. The accompaniment of all human beings - of all these women but also of all these men in great physical and psychological suffering - nevertheless frees speech and establishes a climate of trust conducive to gentle therapeutic work of very high quality and efficiency. Sooner or later will come the future of your sex life and the disarray faced with this source of pleasure that sexuality remains despite everything and which is no longer accessible for the moment. You will have to verbalize this disease, and accept it to better fight it.

OUR ADVICE TO BETTER LIVE YOUR SEXUALITY IN THE FACE OF CANCER

  • Put yourself in front of the mirror and take the time to take ownership of your body and its physical changes.
  • Communicate with your partner and do not hesitate to approach a psycho-sexologist and a sex therapist who will be of great help to you.
  • Review your emotional and sexual life in solo as in duo with erotic toys.
  • Relive the shattered eroticism of your own body with YESforLOV caresses and erotic cosmetics .
  • Keep making love, it's a natural anesthetic that is good for the body as well as for the morale.
The impact of cancer treatments on the couple's sexuality

The impact of cancer treatments on the couple's sexuality

Each cancer is a separate case : by its nature and its origin, by its location, by the anteriority of the experience, and by many parameters which escape us. However, it will largely depend on the characteristics of the tumor and its possible extension. Depending on the therapeutic approach chosen jointly by the oncologist and the surgeon, 5 types of treatment can be envisaged: surgery to remove the tumor mass, radiotherapy and chemotherapy which are often requested to complete the surgery, hormone therapy for hormone-dependent cancers and targeted therapies, specific treatments that attack tumors directly.

To all these relatively heavy treatments to bear, can be added today, as a prelude to better days in the treatments and their very significant side effects, all the avenues of research currently being studied and analyzed: the objective is to considerably improve screening techniques , to identify tumors more precisely for a surer and faster diagnosis , to develop new therapies that are even more innovative and likely to set up much better combinations and sequences of treatments.

Immunotherapy remains for all of us the great hope of tomorrow: it is at the heart of research in the treatment of breast cancer, to remove the obstacles that carcinogenic cells develop so as not to be destroyed by the immune system. The first results of the research are very promising and deserve to be fleshed out in order to come in the near future, which we all hope to complete the panoply of existing treatments and why not replace them one day.

While waiting for better days, the real impact of the treatments on the life of the person affected by this dreaded disease is considerable: general fatigue, weight gain, hot flashes, joint pain, recurrent vaginal dryness. The series of handicaps is particularly long and tiresome to deal with. Surgery has done its lifesaving work, chemo and radiotherapy have done the job to stop any extension or to reduce at best any reappearance of the evil. Unfortunately, all these techniques of intervention and prevention, of partial repair create unbearable sequences of life that must be improved at all costs.

As a very strong warning sign, let's make this confession from Inès Var-Luis, oncologist at Gustave Roussy:

“The side effects of anti-hormonal drugs are sometimes
so burdensome that they lead to abandonment of treatment”
(Source: Scientific journal Annals of Oncology)

This researcher, specialist in breast cancer, points out with great lucidity and courage the shortcomings in hormone therapy when the latter deteriorates the quality of life of patients so much barely two years after diagnosis and it is still good worse in postmenopausal patients. The time has come to carry out a therapeutic de-escalation without calling into question the primary efficacy of treatments in emergency and follow-up. No trial therefore concerning hormone therapy and the very heavy treatments that currently exist for all forms of cancer globally.

YESforLOV by your side in this fight for your new life

YESforLOV by your side in this fight for your new life

Our sexuality is totally disturbed, not to say annihilated when we are one or the other confronted with cancer and its unsuspected heavy treatments. Throughout the course of care, the real reasons for the malaise that develops are as much physical as psychological : the major disorders that occur primarily concern the image of a body which is changing in a negative way and they mingle very quickly with the troubles of a very legitimate desire to love. These disorders are multiple: the sudden and impressive loss of hair, a more important and difficult to assume vaginal dryness, hot flashes, difficulties in reaching orgasm, a libido at half mast, pains as diverse as varied. Do not suffer, counter-attack and get to know your new body which changes its appearance. Tame it and share your doubts and uncertainties with your partner and those around you.

The disorders of desire are as much psychological as physical: isn't love as much in the head as under the duvet, right? On your doubts, take over and your physique will follow. It's up to you to play this rather special game of dominoes which will gradually see barriers, obstacles and handicaps fall one after the other.

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Whatever the age we are, whatever the difficulties we encounter in our life, and a fortiori the ruthless battle to be waged against the crab is one of the most difficult to win, happiness does not don't wait. As Erik Pigani, journalist and writer, pianist and composer at other times so aptly points out: “Happiness is the present moment. We can make the here and now our nest of happiness”. Sexuality is not a luxury for the human being and it is even less so for the human being attacked from all sides by cancer. These moments of sensuality, sharing and tenderness greatly contribute to the quality of life and to keeping morale high. It is not nothing, it is even essential. Continuing to make love in the midst of war against the enemy in all its forms is a challenge to be taken on, a bet to be taken in and not paid off; it is to make the judicious and daring but perfectly feasible choice of a new sexuality. Beyond, in the post-cancer period marked by hardships but victorious, the saving and permanent wind of renewal, of rebirth is another warm challenge to be taken up and extended over time and to the end of the road. YESforLOV, the French brand of intimate cosmetics is delighted to be the ideal intermediary for your amorous pleasures and your ally in your sexual revolution.